I want to mention here that I am neutral to the system, as long as I have a choice. Arranged marriage doesn't feel alien even to many of us who haven't played by its rules. If I hadn't found my husband when I did, I may have agreed to go through the process, as long as I had a say in it.
It's similar to choosing the clothes I wear. I love wearing saris and other Indian dresses. I don't think wearing jeans is liberating simply because that's what my sisters in the West wear. But the sari will start feeling oppressive if I don't have the freedom to wear jeans.
And wow. I just really liked that last part.
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2 comments:
I've heard women from the Middle East say the same thing about burkas. Have you read Interpreter of Maladies by Lahiri? It offers really great perspectives, too.
I've never read any posts on BlogHer and I'm not sure I need any more addictions. But I remember when I used to read Dooce that she was always invited to BlogHer conferences. Can't get a more ringing endorsement than Dooce!
Thanks for the book recommendation MB!
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